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how to respond to minimal openings on dating apps

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Assisted by ChatGPT I am making an effort on the dating apps, because I don't want to die single. However dating online is oftentimes mildly frustrating.  Case in point...  To ChatGPT: Assess her response. Seems a little on the disengaged side? Would someone in wisemind respond? If yes how? Being warm twice doesn't seem worthwhile, and if anything reflecting her energy not wiseminded? You’re reading this pretty accurately—and you’re also asking the right question (Wise Mind vs. anxiety-driven over-adjusting), which matters more than the specific text you send. 1. Assessing her response (fact, not story) “Hi Darren thanks” is: Polite ✔️ Minimal ✔️ Neutral ✔️ Not explicitly disengaged ❌ Not showing enthusiasm ❌ So the facts say: low investment so far, not rejection. The mind wants to jump to “she’s not interested” or “I need to compensate”. Wise Mind says: data point, not a verdict. 2. What isn’t Wise Mind here You already named these accurately: Being warm twice...

flirting why and how

This is a wonderfully fun Ted talk about flirting.  Why and how to do it effectively. ... https://youtube.com/watch?v=RXwQ7_hlL3g&si=Q4c6VY8L7byspU8o Key take away: flirting means the act of making another person feel seen, special And acknowledged.  How... Confidence means doing your intentions and reading the room.