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https://youtu.be/qMtGClDVa28?si=HWHZtnfa1_Lncaap Based on the video's recommendation to use factual journaling to make sense of your story (2:23), here is a prompt you can use to identify your patterns: Journal Prompt: Mapping My Relational Blueprint 1. Objective Observation: Briefly describe a specific time in your childhood when you felt emotionally overwhelmed or needed connection, but it wasn't met. Focus only on the facts (who, what, where) without analyzing your current feelings about it (3:25). 2. Childhood Response: How did you adapt to that specific situation as a child to stay safe or get your needs met (1:16)? (e.g., Did you shut down, become hyper-vigilant, or try harder to please?) 3. Adult Patterns: How does that exact same adaptation show up in your relationships today when you feel triggered (1:32)? By focusing on these factual memories, you can connect your past experiences with your conscious understanding to begin developing earned secure attachment (2:07)...

Emily's post.  This resonated with me ...  https://www.instagram.com/reel/DS1TtccjjtY/?igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

I really appreciate the following list of key considerations in finding a lifelong match.  1. How you resolve fights 2. Finances ... How it is managed. 3. Children yes or no.  4. Want to live in Same city/location?  1. I usually need time after a fight to resolve it and think.  I desire harmony, So I am not afraid to apologize for something patent admit my faults or failings.  If my partner needed to resolve things before going to bed I think I would be open to it.  2. Finances I think that frugal investments and retire early fire is admirable way to manage the budget and invest and plan for the future as much as well. I just want to live with an arm means and use capital money to enable a good life and prepare the next generation for best reach for opportunities.  3. Yes I think so. Open to adoptions .   4. San Diego preferred.  Open to moving to another country or vagabonding as a family.  Source: https://youtu.be/KbU0Kjoovfk?si=T...

 list of questions a man can ask a woman when he is seeking long-term happiness and a lifelong partnership, ranked and paired with the ideal timing so they build connection rather than kill attraction. > Key frame to hold as you read: These are invitations to share values — not an interview. Tone, timing, and curiosity matter more than wording. --- The 20 Questions to Ask Her — Ranked & Timed Tier 1: First-date safe, high-signal questions These are appropriate before or during a first date and give strong information without pressure. Rank Question to ask Ideal timing 1 What do you really enjoy doing when you have free time? Before / First date 2 What does a good life look like to you right now? First date 3 What are you most excited about in your life these days? First date 4 What values are most important to you in a relationship? First date 5 What helps you feel close to someone? First date 6 What kind of connection are you ultimately hoping to build? First date 7 How do ...

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I agree with this.   https://youtu.be/bcNr9SXdsMQ?si=R0TXzkbzRA_O5319 This video challenges the common notion of love as overcoming obstacles and highlights the mistake many people make in dating: pursuing those who are emotionally unavailable or unenthusiastic (0:44-1:07). The key takeaway is that we should only pursue relationships with individuals who demonstrate genuine enthusiasm and commitment from the outset (0:08-0:16, 3:45-3:54). The video emphasizes the importance of recognizing and focusing on those who are "keen, open, and ready" (0:26-0:29), and to quickly dismiss those who are evasive, defensive, or unreliable (4:37-4:40, 4:55-4:57). Ultimately, it advocates for a more mature approach to dating that saves us from needless heartache and allows us to focus on the actual challenges of a relationship with a willing partner (5:17-5:22). ........ I know that I don't do a consistent job of demonstrating enthusiasm from the start of meeting and acquaintance.... Not...

Assisted by ChatGPT I am making an effort on the dating apps, because I don't want to die single. However dating online is oftentimes mildly frustrating.  Case in point...  To ChatGPT: Assess her response. Seems a little on the disengaged side? Would someone in wisemind respond? If yes how? Being warm twice doesn't seem worthwhile, and if anything reflecting her energy not wiseminded? You’re reading this pretty accurately—and you’re also asking the right question (Wise Mind vs. anxiety-driven over-adjusting), which matters more than the specific text you send. 1. Assessing her response (fact, not story) “Hi Darren thanks” is: Polite ✔️ Minimal ✔️ Neutral ✔️ Not explicitly disengaged ❌ Not showing enthusiasm ❌ So the facts say: low investment so far, not rejection. The mind wants to jump to “she’s not interested” or “I need to compensate”. Wise Mind says: data point, not a verdict. 2. What isn’t Wise Mind here You already named these accurately: Being warm twice...