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Part 2 of the confidence building ritual for dating.  This time integrating DBT skills.  Here’s a clean, ready-to-use “Confidence Ritual for Dating”—as if we’re resuming that earlier conversation. I’ll give you the script, the steps, the DBT hooks, a recording-style transcript, plus your usual intelligence-boost snippet, witty line, and a wise principle. --- 🎤 Recording-Style Script (as if you’re listening to it before a date) (Soft, calm, confident tone) “Hey Darren. Pause for a moment. Feel your feet on the ground. You’ve shown up today, and that already means something.” “Breathe in… slow. Breathe out… slower.” “You’re not here to impress anyone. You’re here to connect. You’re curious, open, warm—and your job is simply to notice the human being in front of you.” “Remember: confidence is not a feeling. Confidence is a behavior. You act confident first, then the nervous system catches up.” **“Today, your only goals are three things: 1. Be present. 2. Ask curious questions th...

AaOct2025 and I on Coffee Meets Bagel Nice conversations, we both love chatting about our dogs.  She seems supportive and warm. I hoped to connect on a deeper level by bringing up new/interesting things from IG to our text conversations, didn't work well. She didn't really ask a lot of questions about me or move the conversation forward much.   On the last topic, I sent her by Tracy McMillan - a woman who talked about how to love yourself.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P3fIZuW9P_M   1. two people who are at peace with themselves make a healthy - non-codependent - and wholesome relationship.  2. most people think 'my life will be whole when I find someone to love/be-loved by'.   This is unwise and is at the bottom of McMillan's divorce.  You can love yourself by making vows to yourself,  'Through sickness/health, wealthy/poor, I will be there for myself!'  The speech title was grabby, but it was an upsetting topic for AaOct20...