Confidence Ritual Recording Script

 

🎙️ Confidence Ritual Recording Script

Intro (set the scene)

“Take a breath. Feel your feet on the ground. You are safe. You are present. You are about to connect with someone new, and you get to show up as yourself — nothing more, nothing less.”

2. Anchor in Strength (Expanded Affirmations)

“Remember who you are:

  • You are creative. You’ve thrown yourself into improv, and that creativity shines in how you play, explore, and laugh.
  • You are thoughtful. You notice details, ask real questions, and care about people’s stories.  Remember the DBT group – and the wonderful card they wrote for  you.
  • You are caring. You want connection, not games. That’s rare and beautiful.
  • You are resilient. You’ve faced hard moments, like the turmoil with past dates (Michelle), and yet you chose growth instead of staying stuck. That takes strength.
  • You are genuine. You don’t need to be flashy or perfect; you just need to be you. Think what you think, say what you mean. The right person will value that.

Take a breath and let those truths sink in. This is who you are.”

3. Shift to Curiosity (Expanded Prompts)

“Now shift from proving yourself to exploring. You don’t need to impress — you just need to discover. Ask yourself:

  • What would I like to learn about her today?
  • How does she see the world?
  • What lights her up when she talks?
  • Where do our values and joys overlap?
  • How can I make this conversation fun, playful, or memorable?

Remember, curiosity is your superpower. When you’re curious, you’re free — free from pressure, free from self-doubt. You’re simply exploring another person’s story while being grounded in your own.”

Outro (seal it in)

“Take one more deep breath. Stand tall, or tap your fingers together — your confidence trigger.
You’re ready. You are grounded, strong, and curious. Go enjoy the moment.”-

 

⚡ Bonus “Confidence Trigger”

Pick a small physical cue (like tapping your ring finger and thumb together or standing tall with shoulders back). Do it every time you finish this ritual. Over time, your brain will link that gesture with feeling grounded and confident.

👉 The whole thing takes under 3 minutes. Do it before texting Liz or before a date. It’ll help you show up in your natural style: warm, curious, playful, and aligned with your values.

 

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