essential compatibility considerations

I really appreciate the following list of key considerations in finding a lifelong match. 

1. How you resolve fights
2. Finances ... How it is managed.
3. Children yes or no. 
4. Want to live in Same city/location? 

1. I usually need time after a fight to resolve it and think.  I desire harmony, So I am not afraid to apologize for something patent admit my faults or failings.  If my partner needed to resolve things before going to bed I think I would be open to it. 
2. Finances I think that frugal investments and retire early fire is admirable way to manage the budget and invest and plan for the future as much as well. I just want to live with an arm means and use capital money to enable a good life and prepare the next generation for best reach for opportunities. 
3. Yes I think so. Open to adoptions .  
4. San Diego preferred.  Open to moving to another country or vagabonding as a family. 


Source:
https://youtu.be/KbU0Kjoovfk?si=TpRymrfXDej5hF6r


Comments

  1. DerekJanuary 12, 2026 at 8:48 PM

    Ty for sharing this post. I admire how reflective and thoughtful you in are finding your one true life-mate.

    In regards to the points listed in your entry, here are my 2 cents (sorry if they're unsolicited lol)

    1. I, too, desire harmony. Depending on how the bad the fight was, I also may need time to resolve it. But unfortunately, it may not work out that way and we're forced to do it on the spot. Apologize to her if you warranted, but don't do it if it's not. I made that mistake several times and as a result, we guys aren't respected (and then they get used to us apologizing so much that when we don't, they get mad).

    2. Finances: do whatever you two have to live within your means but also live comfortably. Quality of life is also important, but yes, be frugal with her when needed. That's good that you're already thinking about the next gen!

    3. That's good that you're open to adoption. I am too, if she happens to be.

    4. Yeah, if she's more local that is preferred. But you never know where you find love. Anything can happen. But yes, if she's close by, awesome.

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